Different levels of desire are not, by themselves, a reason to pressure someone into sex. If a change in desire worries you, or you want help discussing it, you can ask for an appointment focused on your own concerns and goals.
What has changed for you?
It may be useful to note when you noticed a change, whether it bothers you personally and whether anything changed in your health, treatment or relationship. You can ask for help without agreeing to a particular frequency of sexual activity.
A consultation should focus on what is causing concern, rather than treating a partner’s preferred frequency as a required target.
Health, medication and relationship factors
The NHS lists several possible contributors to low desire, including health conditions, medicines, stress and relationship circumstances. Treatment depends on the cause. A doctor can consider medical or prescription questions; counselling may be appropriate for relationship or emotional concerns.
Do not choose hormones, supplements or prescription products based on a search result. Ask what assessment is needed before discussing treatment.
Which appointment should you choose?
For a new change, physical symptoms or a possible medication effect, start by asking an appropriate doctor. If you already take psychiatric medication, contact the prescriber about concerns. For communication, distress or intimacy difficulties, compare professionals with relevant psychosexual experience and ask what they can offer.
A difference in desire between partners
You may want help explaining your preferences, listening to each other and agreeing boundaries. A joint appointment requires both people’s consent and the right service type. You can also ask for individual support. Therapy should not be sold as a way to persuade someone to have sex.
Questions for the professional
- What could this appointment help us understand?
- Do any symptoms or medicines call for another medical assessment?
- What options might we discuss after assessment?
- How will my preferences and boundaries be respected?
- What is the cost and purpose of a follow-up?
Keep a note of what you want to discuss; you do not need to share every intimate detail at the booking stage.
Find related care information
Read the low-desire overview, medicine-related sexual changes guide or comparison of medical and therapy options.
Choose an appointment
Explore sexual-health support and professional profiles. For mental-health assessment or prescription questions, see psychiatry consultation options. Check each professional’s relevant experience and scope before booking; being listed does not establish specialist sexual-medicine training. For joint relationship work, compare couples-session options.
Sources and scope
General information for adults, prepared by Mindara on 28 October 2026. This page helps you discuss care choices; it does not diagnose a condition or prescribe treatment.